A Decade in Rewind: 2010-2020.

It was brought to my attention a few weeks back that, we are indeed at the end of another decade.  These memes and blog posts remind us to pause, and take stock of the time we have spent, and what we have done.
This decade has been, by far, the most eventful of my life.  For the sake of this writing, I will break it down into bullet points, which have links.  The links can be followed to a blog post from that year.

Now, if you are seeing this, it's safe to assume you either know me personally, know of me personally, are one of my offspring, or know me through my work in the Pagan Community.



What most folks don't know is that I started out this decade as a blogger.  I had a small parenting blog know as "Bringing up the 'Rear"  The best post from that blog is here

Now, how about that timeline:

• A New Decade: 2010 A blog, sort of, about my time at Comcast, and generally about my life at that point.  It gives you a really good idea of what is going on.  The condensed version: A whole lotta kids, a whole lotta help from in-laws, a whole lot of life-or-death-but-not-really.  What isn't mentioned: A CPS case was ongoing at this point, which ended up ending with no guilt found against me or my ex-husband.  I had an itty bitty baby in May of that year.
• A year of Relative peace 2011 (fuck it, this is the best thing I wrote that year, here's that blog post again)
• What the actual fuck is this shit? 2012 When we zoom in on our heroine, we see that she has changed jobs in August of that year, fell head over heels for a work associate, (my marriage was open at this point,) had a live-in bestie who was a non-romantic, non-sexual partner in our Poly relationship, a whole lot of kids, PLUS my bestie's 2 children.  I had very strong feelings for this person at my work, who reciprocated a bit, but not entirely and was not able to put in the crazy amount of work that I required.  I was in the throws of co-dependency, allowing it to ruin my life.  I would commonly say back then: "I know my marriage is pretty much over, but I will not leave him no matter what.  He's a good guy.  Morgan Freeman's voice informed me over time that he wasn't a good guy.
• What the actual fuck, continued 2013 This was it.  This is the year of the Ohio road trip, the epileptic stealing my car, getting pulled over by 3 cop cars, then being asked to self extradite him back to Michigan and the waiting local police.  Still in love with the same coworker who still did not have the same feelings for me.  Bestie having moved out, but back in, then back out again.  Then, having my sons taken away, and my daughter's fate being decided at a later time.
• A rebuilding year, a new start 2014 An uncharacteristic metaphorical blog post.  I met the man I would marry the next year, and there were 4 court cases this year: One to determine that the boys would go to live with my ex-in-laws permanently, one to ensure that I retained legal rights to my daughter, One the retrial of my ex-husband, the other to secure the divorce.  It was a LOT.  The man and I took a trip up north.  It was a very dynamic year with a lot of highs and lows.  I worked for the same corporation that I had been, but I was now working desktop support for the University of Phoenix which meant a ton of travel for me.  This also meant that I couldn't be home for my own move from the apartment I lived in for 7 years with my kids and ex, which was actually a blessing of sorts.  I was home for the final move days and spent much of them crying and unable to move.  I started therapy in earnest.  I started making the micromovements that would lead to the big changes I needed to make.
• DunneCon 2015 This was a red-letter year for sure.  I married Steve/Lucien that year and found out that my ex-in-laws were not going to honor the arrangements we had made in 2013, due to my participation in the retrial in 2014.  I was beyond heartbroken.  My children were my life.  The fact that my daughter was really struggling through a lot of her thoughts and feelings, my sons were no longer able to see or talk to either of us, and my family got angry with me about allowing my children to be in my ex-in-laws custody instead of theirs... I faced a lot of opposition that year.  The wedding was beautiful though, and I started using Marijuana at this point to ease the grieving process, which was immense and the most painful thing I have experienced in my life... well, to that point, anyway.
• Emotional Manipulation isn't very punk rock of you, 2016 In which I lost my Father and my faithful Misty Mae Mutt, dealing with grief, loss, betrayal from all sides and all angles.  This.  Year.  Sucked and I couldn't wait for it to be over.
• A Year in the Centrifuge 2017 - This can be summed up in one image: 
   I also wrote a book. 
• A House that isn't quite a home 2018 - No blog entries for this year.  I was pretty busy!  I bought a house in May, lost my job at U of M in July, started at Bedrock in August and enjoyed the hell out of all of it!
• The Denouement 2019 and you are here!

This year, like the others, has had its challenges.  I lost my awesome job at Bedrock in April, (first time I've been fired in my adult life) took on a contract role in May, left that in July due to a Narsasist who was also working at the same company, and convinced me of the fact I was trash, my work ethic was trash, and I deserved to be unemployed.

I have this edict that says I go where I am needed.  I do.  Really.  My purpose at Bedrock was not shaking the foundations loose or anything like that, I see it as helping a young woman through the ordeal of a divorce, mental health issues, and making sure she was around to experience her happily ever after.  To the corporation as a whole, this was nothing, but to her and her new relationship, it meant a great deal more.

I am now in a closed, monogamous relationship with a man I did not start the decade knowing.  I wrote a book, I now regularly teach pagan classes at a local temple, I run the PPT Presents podcast, and I'm a board member at that temple.  I regularly teach at Convocation, I hold space for various people throughout the community at pretty regular intervals.  I have more than 1200 Facebook "friends" most of which just saw me making moves in the community and have started following me for some reason.

I run an online convention, at the beginning of the decade I had never even been to a convention.  I am laughing a lot more now and breathing a lot deeper.  I am doing work on the side, either knitting for folks or doing basic IT stuff. I started Tech Witch Detroit this year with the hopes of being able to work from home.  It isn't going well, but I am enjoying the downtime since I've had very little this decade.

I started this decade as an Agnostic and ended it coming back to my Pagan Roots.  Things are going much better in comparison to my life in 2010.  I got my first, second, third and fourth tattoos this decade, (for a bitch with a phobia of needles, that's a huge thing.)

I lost my sons, and one of my parents.

I am sort of in some contact with one of my sons, who is a YouTube/Twitch Streamer but unsure of how that conversation should go.

(if you wanna follow Resi, Here is his Twitch, Here is his YouTube, here is his Twitter, and HERE is his Patreon.  I am very proud of my little Content Creator.  You should be too.  Send him some Dough. <3 

I do not have the information for my other 2 sons, but I'm sure they also each have a YouTube and probably one of them has a Twitter...  Resi wanted to be found, I'm not sure the other guys do yet.  But my little people are my heart and soul and I'm so glad that I can watch them in some way, even if it is from afar and through the lens of their older brother.

My daughter is in her third year of college and will be subbing and student teaching next year.  She also has a Patreon.  She is making great progress through school and therapy with her Fiancee and her Emotional Support Cat, Max.  I am very, very proud of her and what she's been able to do with the crappy hand she was dealt. <3

I have the most supportive, loving and caring partner I have ever had in my life, and although things get quite butthole puckering from time to time, we are doing quite well.  We seldom argue about things which really confuses and astounds me.  I can say I'm pretty happy for the most part.  There are still some things I need to work on.  There always will be.

I sort of regularly update my Patreon, which is rather spectrumy and disjoined.  My Patreon is kind of I want to do "ALL THE THINGS AT ONCE SO PAY ME PLEASE!"

And Right now, that suits me.  I have a lot of irons in the fire and no idea which one to pick up and run with.  I don't want to pick them all up at once for fear of burning myself (out).
I love you all.  Stay on your path and keep making things awesome.